Tuesday, November 17, 2009

I changed my blog. I think I'm going to change it again. I don't like it. Well, I do, but you can't see the words very well. One would think that having a husband who does web design, I'd have a good looking blog. Yeah, notsomuch.

I've been so freaking busy. I do have pictures of projects, but that would require me to be on the computer at home and that just hasn't happened as of late. I apologize :) I've found that I had to cut back on doing stuff outside the house. Which really sucks. But, I still find that I don't have enough time for everything. No matter what I'm doing or where I'm at, I feel as if I should be doing something else or being somewhere else.

How does everyone else handle it? Between the house, work, spending time with family, making sure I get quality time with Lexi, making gifts and cards (which I don't do until after 8 or 9pm most nights when I get time), laundry, grocery shopping, trying to make time with friends, working out. Oh wait. That I don't do. I don't have time. Seriously. How do other moms do it?? I still have this huge piece of flab that hangs over my pants. My back fat has fat. Nastiness. It sucks.

Honestly, how do you handle everything? Do you just keep pushing things to the side? Do you not do anything for yourself? Do you put a career on the backburner? I know I'm not the only one who has (or is) going through this.

One thing I do have to say....guilt sucks. And it's not even guilt others put on me...it's all me putting it on myself. :(


Trisha R Jackson said...

BIG (((hugs))). I have to lean on lots of help. Craig has been doing a great job as of late. I get the laundry in, he moves it over. Granted, we have piles that have piles. As far as working out? I've got nada. However, I do count strapping Delaney on me to get chores done during the weekends. Some days it's for 2 hours. And she loves it. She get a piggy back ride, I get housework done and a hell of a workout with 24lbs strapped to me. I've gotta assume that it burns a lot of calories.

As for work. I'm out the door by 5:30 every night. It doesn't take a back seat but I put in only the required hours.

I also sleep a lot less than I'd like. I'm an 8-9 hour gal. I'm lucky at 6-7 now.

I do have an advantage which is that I don't have a long commute. Not sure how you solve that one besides finding a job closer to home. That would take a big chunk out of it.

And yes, I do sacrifice a lot of social time with my friends unfortunately but it's only for a short amount of time. They grow up so fast. I remind CJ of this all the time when he struggles about being a SAHD. In 5 years, he'll miss being with both of his kids full time.

Danica said...

Sending hugs! I can't comment on the Mom part as well..you know there's no kiddo at home full time.

I can say that I too feel like I don't have time lately. I'm up at 5:30am to bed by 11pm. I don't get enough sleep and I still don't have enough time. I wish I had answers. What I have been trying to do is prioritize what's important and dedicate certain days of the week to things I want to do.

For instance, I am so busy this weekend that I decided I'd spend Monday night cleaning bathrooms. Last night I worked out and sewed buttons on to coats that have been neglected. Tonight is card night (I have to get ready for card club on Sun). Thursday night is the gym and the grocery store. Fri is fun with friends. Sat is work and fun with friends. Sun is fun at card club. I know my routine isn't normal since I don't have kids, but I will say on the weekends that we do have Kassidy I try not to do anything without her or clean. I do clean while she's still asleep because apparently I get up earlier than anyone in the house.

Sounds like you're doing a great job of managing family time with Lexi though, which is the most important.

I hope you find the answers to help you prioritize the other things in your life. If you figure a strategy out, let me know! I'm shooting from the hip here!

Allison said...

I could have written this post. And it's just beginning for me with a 3 1/2 month old. I understand the guilt and just end up sacrificing "me" time to be able to have quality time with E and DH and work...so I don't get to do any crafting or see any friends. So if you find an answer, please share.

Julie said...

Love the blog layout, can't read a damn thing though. Of course my eyes are a lot older than most of your readers!

Andrea said...

Oh lord, it just gets even worse when you are pregnant and don't have the extra energy for things. But before that happened, yeah there just isn't enough time for everything. Exercise is WAY down on the totem pole so that never happens. Time with friends rarely happens either. And cleaning? I just try to keep my house out of a biohazard level at this point.

Being a full-time working Mommy is hard. It's just not possible to do everything so don't put so much pressure on yourself.

Alicia said...

Liz, I've been thinking about this a lot too lately. And I think it all comes down to priorities. Women tend to put their husbands and children first, work and other duties next, and themselves last. And even within that category of "self" there are priorities such as TV, internet, crafting (in your case), and self care like haircuts, exercise, etc.

I've been putting exercise last. But I really think it's just a matter of putting it higher than the other things and it should be able to get done. Really, they make it easy for us. Free gym at work, other gym have free or affordable childcare, we are not single moms so our hubbys can (in theory) watch our kids while we take time for ourselves. It's just a matter of putting working out higher on the priority list than tv and internet and haircuts and sometimes time with your kids.

It sounds so simple but I haven't been able to do it. :sigh: